What makes romantic love different

Romantic love

 

What is a romantic love?

On the previous page, an attempt was made to clarify the question of what love means for our lives. The opinion that love is just an emotion based on neurochemical reactions may seem completely inadequate to some romantically inclined natures. Therefore, the following question should be addressed on this page. Relationships that last a lifetime exist, but is there also romantic love that lasts a lifetime? Before that, I have another question.

What is romance?

In order to clarify the question of what a romantic love is, the actual term romance should be clarified briefly. If you look for a definition, you will hardly find it. At most, to the extent that Romanticism also denotes a cultural-historical epoch. The culturally and artistically active romanticist assumed in the period from the end of the 18th century to the middle of the 19th century a divided world, which was divided into rational thinking on the one hand and the world of feelings on the other. Romantic poets and composers tried to transform this divided world back into an ideal world with and in their works. The motifs used were characters from old fairy tales and myths, and places that we would call romantic today or that were set in a romantic idyll served as a backdrop for the actions.

On this basis, a romantic love would be, a relationship that could begin in an enchanted castle, for example. But also a blooming summer meadow, with fragrant flowers, a bubbling brook, plus some fairies and elves, would be a good setting for a looming love affair. Also a first walk together in a park shrouded in fog. And since the 18th century was a little longer ago, a night walk together, in moonlight and a starry sky, which ends under a lantern, would surely meet all the requirements of our day for romance. But all of these would only be romantic experiences in a love relationship, but not yet romantic love.



What is a romantic love?

Actually, the answer could be very brief, a romantic love is a relationship that transports us to another world. A world that has something magical and fairytale about it. The world is still the same, but a romantic love makes it a little more beautiful, a little more dreamy, a little more magical, a little more rose-colored, a little more lively. We don't need to go to romantic places to indulge in romantic feelings. This romantic love does exist, no question about it, but is it also permanent and can it last a lifetime?

On the part of science, a clear no to this question. But why is this so? To do this, two phases of life must be considered separately in a relationship. The first section includes the time to get to know each other. In this phase love is actually not love, but "being in love". After the time of getting to know each other and falling in love, the actual and hopefully lasting relationship and the time of constant love come.

During the time we are in love, our body reacts by releasing chemical messengers and creating new neural connections that cloud our minds and put us in a state of bliss. On the part of nature, everything serves to preserve the species [1]. But sooner or later everything was initiated by nature that was necessary for pairing and bonding, the messenger substances have achieved their effect, the offspring is secured, the species is preserved. What is then needed to maintain this kind of thing is no longer two people clouded by the intoxication of love, but two sober and rational parents who now devote themselves to looking after their offspring with a cool and clear head. In order to guarantee this, all messenger substances are reduced to the initial level after one year at the latest.

In one relationship or another, the insight matures that one was actually more blind with love, did not see the forest for the trees and actually does not fit together at all. This is followed by a separation and a new love, which does not end much differently. Others get together and live more badly than right next to each other, often with the feeling of having passed real life, true love and true happiness by.

But then there are also those who continue to strive to make the best of a mutual relationship. With these, too, the time of romantic love is over, the messenger substances have long been broken down and reduced to normal levels. But not the neural nerve connections that have been made. These remain. Beautiful experiences are retained in the memory and connect a lifetime with every thought about them later. Although the romantic love has evaporated here too, this does not necessarily mean that you no longer enjoy romantic experiences in life.

The romance in life arises from one's own world of thought, one just mustn't unlearn dreaming. This is what distinguishes us from animals.

The next page deals with the topic of lovesickness, which actually means the absolute low after a romantic love.


What is love The word meaning "/" lovesickness


Topic of this page: From romantic love and more. Answers to the question of whether there is a thoroughly romantic love that connects two people most intimately over many decades? The next page is all about lovesickness.