Were you afraid to start therapy?

When do I have to go into therapy?

How do I know that I need therapy?

Every person has difficult phases in his * her life that he * she has to go through. In these times of crisis, it can be hard to figure out for yourself if a psychotherapy one possibility would be to manage this phase well.

Many people with mental health problems search rarely, late, or even never professional psychological help on: For fear of stigmatization, because your own strength is not enough or because you do not know whether you need a psychotherapist. Every fifth person in Germany suffers from mental illness, but only around 30% seek help in the form of psychotherapy. Many people suffer unnecessarily long. Often they have thoughts like “I'm not sick enough for psychotherapy” or “I can do it without psychotherapy”. The suffering of those affected can worsen if they do not seek professional help.

Therefore it is important to know when it is helpful to see a psychotherapist in order to reduce suffering in the long term through psychotherapy. Because the earlier you seek and accept help, the higher the chances of a quick and long-lasting recovery of your psyche.

So what are the signs that it is time to see a psychotherapist? We asked our psychologists to write down some indicators.

Do the problems in everyday life limit you?

As soon as you have the feeling that your worries determine your everyday life and you are experiencing persistent restrictions such as insomnia, difficulty concentrating, loss of motivation or bad mood, psychotherapy can help.

Are your relationships suffering?

Are your worries and problems putting a strain on your relationship with your partner, friends or family? Then it is important not to ignore or accept these interpersonal conflicts any longer, but to seek professional help, because the social network is essential for psychological well-being.

You don't enjoy your activities anymore?

Do you no longer enjoy hobbies? Are you struggling with motivation? Was this different before? Loss of interest is another indicator that gives you an indication that support can be helpful.

Are you worried about your environment?

Have you been approached by your environment about your change of personality or does it express concern? Take a closer look to see whether their statements are justified.

Did you experience a traumatic event?

Perhaps your thoughts are revolving around a specific event, such as the illness of a loved one, rape, a difficult situation or an accident? Professional help is urgently needed here, because an unprocessed event can have serious psychological consequences.

The doctors can't find any cause for your physical complaints?

Have you been suffering from physical ailments for a long time and there are no apparent physical causes for it? Sometimes psychological problems can be the cause of such complaints, such as pain or stomach and intestinal problems. These psychosomatic complaints can be treated well with psychotherapy.

Has your attempt to get the problem under control on your own failed?

There are things in life that you need help with. But don't be ashamed or afraid of accepting professional help. The thought that one is not “sick” enough to see a psychotherapist is also out of place. For example, in the case of physical complaints, we consider whether they are sufficient for a doctor's visit much less often. Because if your well-being suffers, psychotherapy should be sought.

Are you increasingly turning to alcohol or other substances to cope with problems?

Has your consumption of alcohol or other substances increased? Do you feel like you want to “numb” yourself with consumption? Then the processing of your worries should definitely be accompanied professionally. Overeating or starvation can also be signs of emotional distress. If this behavior occurs noticeably often, this should also be clarified.

Are you more emotional than usual

This means, for example, frequent or persistent aggression, sadness, fearfulness or emptiness. Of course, people have these emotions on a regular basis, but if you feel that you are overwhelmed by these emotions, it can be a sign of a fundamental problem. Another indicator is the “catastrophizing” of events that are about to happen or have happened: for example, when you are constantly convinced that the worst will happen or you can no longer look at events realistically. This intense form of thoughts or feelings can harm you in the long term and should therefore not be ignored.

Do I have to go to psychotherapy?

Perhaps you have already thought about the question of whether you should do psychotherapy before? Or do you feel addressed by at least one of the questions mentioned? Then it is not wrong to seek professional help in the form of psychotherapy. You can read how to do this here. If you are unsure whether you need a psychotherapist, you can also talk to relatives, friends or your family doctor about it and get advice there. Alternatively, you can arrange an initial consultation with a psychologist at Selfapy. Here we advise you on your questions and try to find a solution together.

Many people with psychological stress do not receive adequate treatment, be it because of the waiting times for a therapy place or because their own shame prevents them from going to the doctor. Selfapy offers you online courses on various psychological stresses. Find out more here!