How To Get Over The Fear Of Self Promotion

How To Get Over The Fear Of Self Promotion

Have you started your own business? Are you super excited to get your first client or make your first sale? Awesome! Are you scared of promoting your products and having others judge you? Then you’ve come to the right place.

In this post I want to help you get over the fear of self promotion. I want to help you reach your full potential and sell those products, courses, coaching sessions and more!

I’ve had my own business for almost two years now and I can tell you that I have only recently started to become comfortable with pitching my services and getting used to promoting my products and services.

Before we look into how you can overcome the fear of self promotion, you need to ask yourself a few questions.

  • Why am I scared of promoting myself?
  • What’s stopping me? Fear of judgement? Failure? 
  • Am I scared my family or friends will judge me?
  • Am I scared to come off fake? Accused of selling too much?

If you’re scared of failure, of judgement, of being called fake and more, then I’m going to show you how to overcome those fears related to self promotion.

Be The Boss

You are essentially doing a job. If you worked for someone and they told you to post this, do that and do the other, you would do it, right? So sometimes you have to be the boss of yourself. You need to take control and set those emotions aside. Pretend you are posting on behalf of someone else; you’re doing what you’ve been asked to do.

Take control. Be the boss you are. Put your foot down.

Be Yourself

If you feel “cringe” about promoting a product, it’s probably because you’ve never done this before. It’s always scary doing something new. As long as you are being your authentic self and promoting in a way that aligns with your core beliefs, you’re doing your best.

How To Get Over The Fear Of Self Promotion

Being yourself could mean making a joke, being transparent, using art to convey your message etc. You don’t have to turn into an entrepreneur overnight and churn out motivational quotes and products. Success is what you make it and you need to be completely transparent. Customers buy into your story, not just your product.

Get Rid Of The Negative

Have you noticed that your friends aren’t cheering you on? Or that aunty Karen hasn’t been convinced by your business model?

Your family and friends don’t have to share every post you promote on Facebook, but they should support your dreams without judgement.

If you feel that you aren’t receiving the support you need, maybe it’s time to stop talking about your business to people who clearly don’t understand – or don’t want to understand.

I have so many friends and family members who never ask how my business is going or what I’m up to, so I decided to create my own network of people who support me. I now have a large Twitter and Instagram community that roots for me when no one in real life is.

If your fear of self promotion is coming from a deep rooted problem, maybe it’s time to explore what or who is making you feel that way.

Stay In Your Lane

Ultimately, you need to stay in your own lane. You are your own person and you are the only person who knows what’s best for you.

If you feel that impostor syndrome kicking in, you need to remember what this business means to you. After all, this is your way of putting food on the table. This is your livelihood – no one else’s.

How To Get Over The Fear Of Self Promotion

Of course, judgement may come and go but it’s your job not to be wavered by it. Stand tall like a tree with your roots deeply in the ground. Believe in your business and others will too. If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect others to?

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Female Creative Series: Q&A with Beauty Blogger Chichi

Female Creative Series: Q&A with Beauty Blogger Chichi

I started a female Creative Series to celebrate the women around us who work hard and hustle in the creative jobs. This week I spoke to Chichi, a beauty blogger who lives in Cambridge.

Tell us a little bit about yourself!

My name is Chichi and I’m a beauty blogger. I’m from London and I currently live in Cambridge. In my spare time I like to read books, watch YouTube videos, visit museums and blog!

What do you do for a living?

I work in digital media and marketing. I specialise in content writing and copywriting, but I’ve also worked in content marketing, blogger & influencer outreach and social media management.

What made you decide to do what you do for a living?

I kind of fell into the digital media world. My original plan was to become a journalist and work in traditional media – I wanted to work as a beauty and fashion journalist for magazines. But after discovering the digital media world and realising that I could write for online media, I chose to do that instead.

What would be your advice for someone looking to go into your profession?

If you want to enter the industry then definitely try to get some experience and build up your network. Your network is your net worth! Consider taking professional qualifications – this is something I am working on right now. Also, create a website or portfolio to showcase your best work.

What are some of your hobbies or skills that you’d like to improve this year? 

I’m currently teaching myself to play the keyboard after briefly learning as a child. The thing is that learning to play an instrument requires so much practice and consistency so I need to keep it up and keep it going.

What’s a quote that makes you feel empowered/motivated?

“Your value does not decrease based upon someone’s inability to see your worth.”

Can you tell us some of your favourite female creatives you love to support? Feel free to link to their socials or blogs!

I am always reading blogs and these are some of my favourites:

Sophie Milner (formerly Fashion Slave)

Gemma Louise

A Woman’s Confidence

Kate La Vie

Albertine Sarah

Demi Colleen

Cruelty-Free Kitty

Can you recommend your top 5 books for creatives? 

The Joy Of No

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

What A Time To Be Alone by Chidera Eggerue

The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

Get Your Sh*t Together by Sarah Knight

You can find Chichi on her socials:

Blog: https://www.chichiwritesbeauty.co.uk/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/chichiogwe
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/chichiogwe/

 

Christmas Markets – Frankfurt

Christmas Markets – Frankfurt

Last weekend we visited Frankfurt and its Christmas markets. We packed jumpers, coats, hats and scarves but the weather was just the same as the UK.

My aim was to have a Baileys hot chocolate, come back with a mug and have a pretzel the size of my face – which I did.

We arrived really late on Friday night and stayed at the Bristol Hotel next to the train station. After someone (Oliver’s dad) forgot the directions, we eventually made it to the hotel after 45 minutes but it should have taken 5 😂

We woke up, had breakfast and walked to where the Christmas markets are. We stopped in a store that reminded me of Flying Tiger before heading into the markets to grab hot chocolate with amaretto.

We stayed out for a few hours to take pictures, buy drinks and get some food. There were so many stalls, from food, drinks to hardware and Christmas ornaments. I’ve never seen a market so big. We also walked over a bridge the other side of the river where there were a few flea markets and we also went into a large church with a choir performing.

We went back to the room for a while and caught up on I’m a Celeb before going out again at 7pm to see the markets in the dark.

We ended up having a Maccy D’s. We always like to see the difference in food choices when we go away. You can make your own mcflurrys and get different types of burgers. In France you can even get seafood.

On Sunday we got up, had breakfast at the Bristol Hotel and headed off to the markets again. This is when I bought my pretzel (it only cost €3.50). I also managed to get myself a Baileys hot chocolate! First time I’ve ever tried Baileys and I definitely approve.

Overall, I’ve really enjoyed attending my first European Christmas Market. It was so festive and I can’t wait to go to a new Christmas Market again.

A few tips for anyone thinking of going to a Christmas market:

  • If you buy a mulled wine or hot chocolate, you’ll pay more for the mug and get a token. If you take the mug back, you’ll get some money back. If you decide to keep it, just swap it for a clean mug.
  • Bring warm clothes such as a coat and hat but don’t worry about bringing gloves and scarves as it’s currently the same temperature as it is in the UK.
  • Check times of when markets open and close before you go and see if you can find any secret markets or indoor stalls.

A Trip To Marrakech

A Trip To Marrakech

Hi all! As you may have guessed from my selfie spam on social media, we went to Morroco for a week away. We stayed at the Riu Tikida Palmeraie in Marrakech, a short shuttle bus away from the centre of Marrakech. We went for the all inclusive because we wanted a paid for summer holiday with no fuss or hassle. We only took £50 spending money and managed to get snacks, KFC (yes we are those people on holiday) and souvenirs.

For the first few days we stayed at the hotel, lounging about on the sunbeds and swimming in the indoor swimming pool (which was completely empty for some reason). We binged on food and drink because let’s face it, you have to on all inclusive to get your moneys worth.

On Friday we decided to go into Marrakech centre and took the free shuttle bus from the hotel. I wanted to go to Majorelle Gardens as it looked so beautiful on the photos I’d seen. We could have been dropped off there but we decided to go all the way into the centre so we would know where pick up and drop off is. We walked quite a way as the gardens are a little further out and paid 70 Dirhams each to go inside which is less than £10. I was only interested in the gardens and not the museum so we only paid for that. The gardens were completely stunning and it was lovely to see how peaceful it was away from the bustling city centre. I would definitely recommend a visit.

After strolling through the gardens for around an hour and encountering some wildlife, we walked back into town and headed for KFC. Our legs were hurting from walking and I was way to hot in my leather jacket even though everyone was wearing huge puffy coats.

I really wanted to visit the palaces but we got lost on the map so instead we headed for the souks which was quite an experience. We got lost several times and were bombarded with questions from local sellers and stall holders. I didn’t particularly enjoy the souks but it was good to have ticked it off my list.

For the next few days we had some rain but also some gorgeous days with highs of up to 24c in November. It’s the perfect time to go because our hotel was fairly cheap, there was hardly anyone there and we experienced some lovely weather.

We headed back into the souks on Sunday night to see it in the dark and to buy some items with our leftover money. We bought Oliver’s parents a little tealight holder and I got a fake designer bag because I’m that girl.

Our last few days consisted of going to the local supermarket which came across as a Costco and spending some quality time in the sun drinking. It was sad to come home to reality but at the same time I can’t wait for the next adventure. Down below are some tips for anyone wishing to visit Morroco/Marrakech.

Tips

  • For women, it is best to cover the shoulders and knees to draw less attention to yourself but don’t worry about being too strict, it’s only for mainly going to the religious spots and palaces. I dressed conservatively to avoid attention.
  • If you’re staying in an all inclusive like us you don’t need to bring too much money with you unless you want to eat out a lot.
  • Take a water bottle to be more sustainable but to also keep hydrated as it can get quite humid, especially if you are walking a lot.
  • Ignore people wanting to sell you things, you will say no thank you ten times over if not.
  • People will pretend to shout things such as “you’ve dropped your purse” to get your attention so they can steal from you.
  • I noticed a lot of people were quite nasty and rude and only wanted money so keep your wits about you; don’t let anyone show you directions or carry your bag, you will be hassled until you give them money.
  • Don’t take pictures of monkeys and snake charmers because they will demand money from you.

Don’t forget to have a great time! Have you been to Morroco? What was your experience like? Let me know in the comments!

Boycotting Black Friday

Boycotting Black Friday

If you’re anything like me you’ll love a bargain. Black Friday is the ideal time to get that new dress or make up palatte or console you’ve had your eye on. But when we take a look at the facts, will we really want to be spending our hard earned money on unsustainable items?

So, before we take a look at how unsustainable Black Friday actually is, let’s take a look at how it effects you as a customer and as an employee.

Over a 100 injuries occur on Black Friday and 12 people have actually died since 2006 while shopping. Can you imagine being so desperate for a sale that your life actually depends on it? Not only is this horrific for the customer but imagine what the staff have to go through; late nights, early mornings and dealing with bloody rude customers.

Now that we’ve had a look at the cons for customers and staff, let’s take a look at the unsustainable side. It’s averaged that the UK will spend around £5.6 billion on Black Friday and Cyber Monday this year. Think of the amount of Fast Fashion retailers taking part in this. The amount of clothes that will be bought and thrown to the back of the wardrobe without another thought; or tossed into landfill after one use. Think of how much time has gone into making these clothes from workers who aren’t even paid a minimum wage. As a country we have bought into this mindset of how we need the latest staple piece from Topshop or we need these amazing shoes from Missguided. The amount of clothes bought in the UK alone is astonishing.

However, there are some fashion retailers who are abandoning the tradition of Black Friday such as Monki. On their website they have written a statement about how they will not have any deals and they’ve called it “Black Fri-nay” which is kinda cliche but catchy if you ask me. To me, even though Monki is only rated as “It’s a start” on Good On You, I would much rather buy from a brand such as this than I would Pretty Little Thing, one of the worst fast fashion companies there is.

Did you know more than 83% of Black Friday shoppers say they would buy their items and gifts via mobile? It may be great for people who work or don’t want to be trampled by crowds, but in reality, it’s scary to think that a new pair of boots or a new tee is only a click away. Fast fashion retailers have so much power over their customers. There’s always a sale section, but Black Friday is their day to shine.

But why are we conditioned to want the latest item of clothing or the newest accessory? I read an interesting article recently about the Diderot Effect. “The Diderot Effect states that obtaining a new possession often creates a spiral of consumption which leads you to acquire more new things. As a result, we end up buying things that our previous selves never needed to feel happy or fulfilled.” It makes sense that we buy items we don’t need, we just think we need to have them. This, to me, is how fast fashion retailers get us.

So, what can we do to boycott Black Friday and Cyber Monday this year?

For a start, do not give in to the deals you see pop up on your Facebook feed or click on a link to Boohoo deals that your best friend sent you. As hard as it can be if you’re new to the sustainable approach, you have to have some willpower.

Unsubscribe to retailers emails that will undoubtedly be sent to you today and Monday.

I recently noticed I still follow some fast fashion retailers on Facebook and finally got around to unliking the pages so there’s no temptation to look or support them in any way.

You can also create your own blog posts or share your thoughts on your social media channels.

There’s even events going on you can take part in. My sustainable friend Becky is speaking at an event this weekend. You can find the events here.

You can also support small businesses hosting black Friday deals such as etsy businesses or buy on depop or ebay. There’s still ways to get the deals you want, you just have to be more eco conscious!

What are you doing to boycott Black Friday?

Sources:

https://www.finder.com/uk/black-friday-statistics

https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/what-buy-what-skip-black-friday-ncna1091706

https://jamesclear.com/diderot-effect

V-Eco Food Wrap Review

V-Eco Food Wrap Review

I was kindly gifted some amazing eco friendly and vegan wraps which can be used for packed lunches as an alternative to cling film and plastic bags.

I was so excited to receive these since I want to try and be more sustainable and watch how much plastic I use.

I was gifted some Butty Wraps, food wraps and a soapsaver which are super handy for work or travelling. These all come in different designs but I was gifted the food wraps in the butterfly print, the butty wrap in the unicorn print (which is the best, don’t argue with me) and the soap saver in cherry blossom print.

These can all be reused by just washing them under cold water with a little bit of soap after use. Don’t put anything hot in or near these as they are made from tree resin and will therefore melt because they are a type of wax!

The soapsaver will come in really handy when I go on holiday to put my soaps and toiletries in instead of buying those plastic freezer bags that I chuck away after use.

I am really looking forward to making wraps and sandwiches in these so I don’t have to buy those meal deals and chuck all the plastic and clingfilm away afterwards.

If you are interested in trying to become more sustainable and want to use these vegan alternatives for your every day use then check out V-Eco’s website!

What are you doing/buying to be more eco friendly and sustainable? Have you got any suggestions for me? Let me know in the comments!

Glamping In A Plane

Glamping In A Plane

You heard that right! Oliver and I went Glamping, and not just any old Glamping; we did it in style. We stayed on a Jetstar in the South of Wales.

First off, I’ll tell you how I found the plane ‘Hotel.’ I was looking for planes to stay in because Oliver is obsessed with flying and planes. I searched for ages, all around the world. But I really wanted to find one in the UK. That’s when I came across Apple Camping on Airbnb which has the most wackiest places to stay, including the plane, a UFO, a witches hat and more.

I ended up booking one night (it was obviously expensive) in Wales for Oliver’s Christmas present. He was so happy when I told him and we’ve been waiting so long for this mini break.

So on Saturday morning we packed up the car and off we went for our three and a half hour drive. The weather coming out of Surrey started to hail which made me worry about what the weather must be like in Wales.

However, when we got to Swansea it was rather hot (silly me wore black jeans). We made our way to the campsite via Google maps because the sat nav lost signal when we stopped at a services. Apple Camping is located next to a farm about ten minutes away from Tenby. It’s nice and quiet and we met Wolf the campsite owner on arrival.

As we walked across the field Wolf told us they are building a church for weddings and we saw the UFO in the middle of the campsite. We walked all the way past the showers and kitchen to our home for the night: the Jetstar.

Wolf showed us our little outdoor kitchen area before taking us up the steps into the plane. First we saw the cockpit with all the original seating and equipment. Then we walked along to see where the pilot would sleep. Wolf told us that the plane originally crash landed in Gloucestershire somewhere and was then used for movies such as Diehard and Goldfinger until the campite bought it.

The seating in the plane is all original as well as the tray tables that pop out of the wall. There’s all the original strobe lighting as well as where the air stewards would make drinks. There’s also a little toilet with the original sink and taps. The bedroom has been built on to the end of the plane to give you space for all your things and a nice comfy bed.

Once settled and once I’d taken a few photos and videos, we set off to Tenby where we had dinner at Yeah Buoy, a wonderful and cheap little burger place in the centre by the sea.

Oliver wanted to show me the life boat house that was featured on grand designs and we had a nice walk around and on the beach. Once we had had dinner we loaded up with alcohol from Tescos and headed back to our camp (not before panicking because we thought the car needed oil).

Once back to the plane we played around in the cockpit (it has an Xbox but it didn’t really work) for a bit until retiring (yes, I’m trying to sound posh) to the seating area to play scrabble (I don’t think we really know the rules of scrabble but I did find out that Duffin is actually a word.)

We had a good night’s sleep with bedding provided but we did forget to take our own towels!

Checkout was at 12pm that morning so we got up at about 10am to pack up our overnight things. After taking more selfies and checking out (which consisted of shutting the doors) we headed off to Barry Island to see where all the Gavin and Stacey scenes were filmed. We played crazy golf and took photos of Gavin’s house and Stacey’s. I didn’t know this but Marco’s actually exists!

After having a look around we walked back to the car and made our long way home. But we did get back for 7pm when we had dinner and a fire at home with the family.

Have you ever been to a unique hotel or Airbnb? Let me know in the comments!

7 Reasons To Travel

7 Reasons To Travel

Hi guys. In this week’s post I’m going to be talking about reasons why you should travel and what travel does to impact our lives.

I believe that travel is important for everyone because you receive so many unique experiences. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg to gain these experiences. Even going on a mini break or road trip will open you up to new experiences.

Reasons To Travel

1. Culture. It’s amazing how countries have different etiquette and traditions and I believe we all need to travel and visit different cultures to learn and broaden our minds.

2. Confidence. Whether you are traveling in a group, with family, partner or solo, travelling gives you independence and confidence. Being around people you aren’t around often gives me a sense that I can do anything and no one will ever see me again.

3. Memories. Now this is an important one. Would you rather stay in one place all your life, not meeting other people or learning new things? Or would you rather travel the globe, have stories to tell the grandchildren and memories you won’t regret?

4. People. You never know who you’ll meet when you travel. You could meet your future partner, a new friend or penpal. We shouldn’t expect our best friends and partners to live around the corner.

5. Skills. When you travel you develop new skills, such as navigation or a new language. There’s plenty to learn when you are in a new country.

6. Perspective. Traveling puts a lot in perspective for me because it makes me feel alive. This is what life’s about. Not those bills, work or responsibilities. It’s about the moments we steal for ourselves, the glimpse of a sunset on a cruise or the chance to climb the Eiffel tower.

7. You become richer. Not in the sense of money rich, but you will gain new skills, have new outlooks and more stories to tell. Travel makes you rich in so many ways.

That’s a wrap! Why do you think people should travel? Let me know in the comments! Until next time, love, Vee x

A Trip to Nice

A Trip to Nice

For Oliver’s 21st, Oliver’s parents took us to Nice in France for the weekend.

Day One

We took off to Gatwick at 3am for our flight at 6am. We arrived in Nice around 9am and made our way on the tram to Hotel Brice.

For a while we pottered around the town and had pain au chocolates. It was rainy but it was lovely to explore.

We had some lunch in McDonald’s while it poured down and went back to the hotel for a nap before going out to pizza.

Day Two

Oliver’s birthday! For his birthday I got him basketball tickets for London and his parents got him a lamborghini experience in Monaco.

We went into the Monte Carlo casino and had some lunch in Cafe De Paris before getting the bus back to Nice. We had some delicious hot chocolate and an ice cream to share.

We all got a gift from Oliver’s parents saying we were going to Frankfurt in December to see the Christmas markets!

Until next time, love, Vee x

Book Review: Bookshop Girl

Book Review: Bookshop Girl

This week I’ll be reviewing Bookshop Girl by Chloe Coles.

Blurb

Bennett’s Bookshop has always been a haven for sixteen-year-old Paige Turner. It’s a place where she can escape from her sleepy hometown, hang out with her best friend, Holly, and also earn some money.

But, like so many bookshops, Bennett’s has become a ‘casualty of the high street’ – it’s strapped for cash and going to be torn down. Paige is determined to save it but mobilising a small town like Greysworth is no mean feat.

Time is ticking – but that’s not the only problem Paige has. How is she going to fend off the attractions of beautiful fellow artist, Blaine? And, more importantly, will his anarchist ways make or break her bookshop campaign?

Review

I picked this book up on a whim in my local library because of its title. I love anything bookshop so this felt ideal.

I was right to love it! It’s full of books, quirky personalities and friendship. It’s a heartwarming read about the things that matter in life. Paige wants to study art and the only thing keeping her going in the town is Bennetts Bookshop which she adores working at with her bestie Holly.

This book is full of laughs and I loved every second of it. Paige reminded me of me, but so did Holly. They’re both bookworms who are weird but wonderful. I found myself wishing I knew these girls because they would probably be my best friends in real life.

I can’t wait to read the next installment of Paige’s adventures!

Until next time, love, Vee x